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Life has a way of showing you what you need to see\u2014if you\u2019re paying attention. I had no idea, when I asked the question \u201cWhat is self-care?\u201d<\/em> in Sunday Shorts last week, what would be put in my path. It became a recurring theme, shown through different forms of love\u2014for others, for friends, and even for myself. Stories that, in their own way, all led to self-reflection\u2014for everyone involved. And through them, a quiet correlation kept rising to the surface: the importance of knowing yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n Some of the most misunderstood parts of us aren\u2019t soft at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n They\u2019re the bold ones. The kids who spoke up when something felt off. The ones who questioned authority and got labeled \u201cdifficult.\u201d The ones who wouldn\u2019t laugh just because the group did. Who lost respect for adults who hadn\u2019t earned it\u2014and showed it. Who asked hard questions and refused to accept \u201cbecause I said so\u201d as an answer.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Those traits often made adults uncomfortable. Why? Because they forced a pause. A mirror. A reckoning. And for that, many of us were taught to tuck those parts away.<\/p>\n\n\n\n But the truth is, those were never flaws.<\/p>\n\n\n\n They were signs of clarity. Integrity. Strength.<\/p>\n\n\n\n And when you look closely, you start to see how those same traits\u2014once called too much or too loud or too stubborn\u2014can also become the foundation for something deeply loyal. Protective. Honest. That clarity showed up in unexpected ways this week.<\/p>\n\n\n\n This week, love was everywhere. Not loud or theatrical\u2014but front and center, woven into moments, people, and presence.<\/p>\n\n\n\n There was the kind of love that worried over someone\u2014really<\/em> worried. Friends and family circling a relationship, unsure whether to speak or stay silent, wanting to protect but not control. The kind that hovers quietly on the edge of your choices, hoping you\u2019ll choose yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n There was the quiet fear tucked behind medical test results\u2014and surgery. The kind of fear that settles into the in-between moments. The drive there. The wait. The space between updates.<\/p>\n\n\n\n And in that space, people showed up\u2014not with platitudes, but with presence. Some texted. Some called. A few sat beside me and filled the air with small stories, enough to keep my mind from spinning into places that wouldn\u2019t serve me. They were concerned for him, yes\u2014but they were also caring for me.<\/em> In real time. Gently keeping me tethered to the present, breath by breath.<\/p>\n\n\n\n And at the center of it all was a love story that felt both grounding and extraordinary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n A friend of mine recently lost her husband. But what she had with him wasn\u2019t just a marriage\u2014it was a partnership forged in clarity. Two people who knew themselves well enough to recognize the right person when they saw them. Their love didn\u2019t demand the spotlight, but it didn\u2019t need to. It was felt. Lived. Known.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Their children spoke of it\u2014their respect, their humor, their ease with each other. The way they showed up<\/em> for people. Their love wasn\u2019t something they hoarded; it overflowed. Through acts of service. Through wisdom shared. Through the quiet, everyday way they made others feel seen.<\/p>\n\n\n\n As I reflect back on this week\u2014and everything I was shown\u2014I find my self-care question quietly being answered.<\/p>\n\n\n\n It\u2019s in the quiet moments. The bravery to feel difficult emotions you desperately wish would pass. It\u2019s putting words to feelings, and seeing the truth behind actions\u2014their root, their impact, their intention.<\/p>\n\n\n\n As a parent, it reminded me how important it is to hold space for our kids during their worst moments. But also, how incredibly vital our role is in shaping who they\u2019re becoming. The long-term effects it can have on their development\u2014and our relationships\u2014go deeper than we sometimes allow ourselves to admit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Because in the end, self-care is simply taking the time to understand yourself\u2014to process your thoughts and emotions, and to put life back into perspective. However you get there\u2014journaling, walking, a long soak in the tub\u2014what matters is giving yourself space to reconnect and understand what\u2019s really going on inside.<\/p>\n\n\n\n This week, love showed up in quiet moments, thoughtful gestures, and honest conversations. 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The kind of love that sees clearly and holds steady.<\/p>\n\n\n\nWhat This Week Showed<\/em> Me About Love<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
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