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Eyes on the Back of My Head

My Kindergartener never fails to make me chuckle daily. But sometimes, he says things that are not only funny but serves as insight of how he interprets of our words.

There is something sweet about a little one’s astonishment when a parent knows what a child is up to even with their back turned, this happened when I made some cookies recently. I had given my little one a couple warm cookies and a frosty glass of milk. He happily sloshed cookies into the milk while playing with his cars. I had moved to a spot with my back to the kitchen when all went very quiet. That quiet moment that every parent feels is deafening. That moment you know something is up.

I knew without turning around that he was backward walking toward the plate of cookies on the counter with his eyes glued to me. Hoping to make off with another cookie as his glass still had a bit of milk. At the peak of the silence, just as he was reaching for a cookie (I could hear his breathing change), I calmly spoke. “I hope you are not grabbing another cookie.” A moment of stunned quietness followed as he assessed how carefully he had watched me. He knew I had not turned my head in the slightest. His sweet 5-year-old voice now filled with utter amazement, asks “How did you know?” Without skipping a beat or turning around, I said: “All Mommies have eyes on the back of their head.” He was quiet for aminute taking in that statement then went back to his cars.

A few nights later, as he is settling into bed, he starts playing with my hair. Nothing new he has done that since he was born. But this time he gets behind me and starts moving my hair all around. Out of fear of knots I reach back to tickle his side to get him to stop and ask what are you doing? To which he says in a thoughtful tone “I am trying to find the eyes on the back of your head! I can’t see any!”

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Did we all experience​ a brain meltdown….

What happened to critical thinking in our nation?  What happened to the respectful intelligent debate of issues important to the electorate? When blatant outrageous lies by politicians meant the end of their career.

Truthfully, it is not necessarily the politicians or the process.  It is us, the Republic, who are not doing our jobs.  We seldom “fact check” statements made in the election cycle.    We   no longer have our old trusted safety nets; the integrity of the Walter Cronkite’s’, Peter Jennings or Woodward and Bernstein’s fighting for truth on our behalf. They are no longer there to explain in an unbiased fashion, how government procedure works or the constitutional laws candidates statements violate. As a public, I am not even sure we know to ask for these things anymore, of either ourselves or our reporters.

I recently watched a 2012 clip of former Supreme Court  Justice David Souter talk about how dangerous it is to not know Civics. When the people no longer know whose job solves what problems it gives an opening for an individual to rise up claiming he alone has all the answers. It scary to see how well his words describe what has happened in this election four years later.

All the more reason to regain our ability to  realize issues are bigger than what can fit in a sound bite. Large problems have many affected parts all of which need to be considered. It takes a collaborative mindset and experience of many,  to find a workable solution. Understanding the limits of which each office has toward that solution would go a long way to candidates having more realistic statements during the election.

By election day it seems we are numb from all the outrageous rhetoric.  To the extent, we shrug our shoulders when our officials obstruct governing for their party’s agenda.  We accept the fact we are not being faithfully represented.  We are certainly not thinking through the damage  “signed pledges of party loyalty” does to our country as a whole. How it takes away our elected official’s power and ability to use their critical thinking skills to serve us.  Upon hearing about said pledge we do not demand it be removed  nor call for more transparency. What is wrong with us?

“Finally whether you are citizens of America or citizens of the world, ask of us the same high standards of strength and sacrifice which we as of you”

– John F Kennedy

When did we give up so much of our power, elected officials are not afraid of the American Public’s anger in deliberately obstructing  the business of governing? Refusing to hold Supreme Court vacancies for congress’ own personal interests.  How can we stand by and allow our President be refused a congressional audience regarding the budget? What happened to do what is best for the country? When the did voice of the people become so quiet…..hold on I need to post this great selfie to Instagram….ok, where was I?   Where is our level of engagement?  Has our lack of critical thinking left us powerless to demand better of our elected officials?

Which brings to me the often quoted John F. Kennedy’s 1961 inaugural speech. I have found myself often thinking of some important phrases of that speech. However, President Kennedy’s closing remarks are often overshadowed by the more famous quote made just prior, yet they seem correct for this day and age: “Finally, whether you are citizens of America or citizens of the world, ask of us the same high standards of strength and sacrifice which we ask of you.” 

Are your elected officials living up to their end of the bargain?